Let's stop apologising - Laura's top tip for not saying sorry
On the plane on my way out to Mallorca, I saw a woman apologise when she came out of the bathroom and a guy was blocking her path as he was stood in a very silly place. SHE apologised.
As I watched on I felt anger rise up within me and I wanted to jump out of my seat and ask her why she was apologising. I didn’t!
For a long time now…and reinforced through the work I am doing with @Upfrontglobal…it has become apparent to me how quickly we all jump to an apology.
And just to be clear, I was not angry with her, not one little bit. But at the system that has steered women into generations of feeling like we needed to apologise for existing. I notice it with my Mum. When I am around friends. And in the workplace when we are working with organisations.
And I am hyper aware of how this is diluting our essence, our light and our ability to make a beautiful impact in this world.
Words are important and the relentless apologising dilutes your worth.
You are worthy to exist. You are worthy enough to ask some buffoon to move out of the way of the toilet door…please!
You are worthy enough to own your position on this planet.
You are worthy enough to make yourself big.
You are fucking worthy.
INSPIRED ACTION:
Notice. How often do you apologise? How often do you witness the women around you apologising? How does it feel to remove “I’m sorry” from your vocab?
TOP TIP:
Small tweaks make a big difference. One of the most common apologies is for the delay in your email response! Try this instead, “Thanks for bearing with me…” (This can also be used if you are a few minutes late to a meeting / appointment etc)
I would LOVE to hear how you get on. Laura xx